Saturday, January 1, 2011
(Opinion) "Bullying and the Act of Engagement" by Anzour S. Jallouqa
"Bullying and the Act of Engagement"
by Anzour S. Jallouqa
Special to Conversations Magazine and www.conversationsmag.com
The need and desire to feel significant and superior has been -- always will be -- present in our society. Way too often, bullies are perceived as negative, self motivated types of individuals acting put toward others in an aggressive manner whether emotional, psychological or physical manner. They are perceived to be operating within a self proclaimed paragotive to some degree. However, I beg to differ -- as unconventional as that may seem to most -- and state that bullies are merely operating within a multi-facited system within society.
Therefore, I reference "Systems Theory" to stress my point and share my perceptive on the topic. Systems Theory may be defined as a transdisciplinary study of the abstract organization of phenomena. Mutually exclusive in their substance, type and/or temporal scale of existence.
Real systems are open to, and interact with, their environments, and that they can acquire qualitatively new properties through emergence, resulting in continual evolution. Social engagement between two or more individuals in an real system is continuously evolving and requires to recall or aggressive reformation to take place (no bullying in this type of a system). Rather than reducing an entity to the properties of its parts or elements.
Systems theory focuses on the arrangement of and relations between the parts which connect them into a whole (role assessments and labeling takes effect in this type of system structuring and bullying is often likely to manifest). Often times, a family and its member play roles within their household. Some roles are self-selected while others are undesirably attained through process of elimination.
I.E: Billy is a the eldest son in the family and wants to be a doctor. Therefore, Susie can not be a doctor and must consider picking another roles or professional in order to be an active member in her family and accepted by society.
Thus, bullies are often lacking affirmation and the attention of those who matter most in their lives (family, friends) or are in a constant state of disappointment and fear which causes them to lash out at others because they can not attain a sense of control intheir own personal household.
Consider this, a bully is constantly trying to supress their fear and redirect that fear toward aggression to feel significant. Consequently, as long as there is a desire for people to feel a sense of significance, the world will always have violence and bullies.
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