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Friday, December 21, 2018

[To You,From Me] Be Determined to Win

2018 has been a year of extreme highs and lows for so many, including myself. I don't always get personal online but during this year I experienced the death of two aunts as well as health challenges with other family members and friends. I know that many of those who are connected with me have dealt with the same or even their own personal challenges and difficulties that has made the year harder than they would have liked.

It's easy to look at where you are right now and say that you'll never get where you want to go, or to wish that things could be different. The good thing is if you are here today. Right now. You have the ability to choose to win today. Maybe winning is different from what others are achieving, but giving it your best is the key to success.

This issue of Conversations Magazine is a celebration of life, of achievements and looking ahead. You'll be able to enjoy chats with the cast of one of my favorite shows on television, The Haves and the Have Nots as well as introductions to authors that have had a goal for themselves and in spite of what they could have done they saw it through all the way 'til the end.

This issue also introduces some great contributors to our readers. The "Joy Magnet" Shari Alyse, Fashion Contributor Gail Rayford-Ambeau and Fitness Contributors Ameerah Dean have great articles for you all, and we have a "31 Days of Inspiration" schedule from my friend fitness model and trainer Branden Nicholson.

No matter what comes your way today stay determined to win. I am living proof that behind every dark cloud is a ray of hope. You just have to look up to enjoy it.

Until next time!



Cyrus Webb, Editor-In-Chief
Conversations Magazine

Thursday, December 20, 2018

Conversations Top 50 Fiction Books of 2018

It has become one of Conversations' most prized reveals: what books read by Conversations Media Group founder Cyrus Webb are his top picks of the year?

Here you will find his choices for Top 50 Fiction Books of 2018. As over the past decade the list includes established voices as well as individuals who are rising literary stars.

CONVERSATIONS' TOP 50 FICTION BOOKS OF 2018
(Listed in no particular order)


  1. The Cast by Danielle Steel (Delacorte Press)
  2. I've Got My Eyes On You by Mary Higgins Clark (Simon & Schuster)
  3. Material Witness by Norwood Holland (Windmill Books)
  4. Pre-Meditated Murder by Tracy Weber (Midnight Ink)
  5. Welcome to Moonlight Harbor by Sheila Roberts (Mira)
  6. Sold On a Monday by Kristina McMorris (Sourcebooks)
  7. Envy by Victoria Christopher Murray (Touchstone)
  8. Somebody's Daughter by Rochelle B. Weinstein (Lake Union)
  9. The Good Liar by Catherine McKenzie (Lake Union)
  10. Firestorm by Solange Ritchie (Stony Hill Publishers)
  11. The Escape Artist by Brad Meltzer (Grand Central Publishing)
  12. Cowboy: A Story of Yakima Canutt by David W. Huffstetler (Becher House)
  13. The Other Woman by Daniel Silva (Harper Collins)
  14. Not Perfect by Elizabeth LaBan (Lake Union)
  15. Addicted to Hate by Lucia Mann (Grassroots Publishing Group)
  16. A War in the Bronx by A. Shane Etter (Thomas Max)
  17. Pieces of Her by Karin Slaughter (William Morrow/Harper Collins)
  18. The Painted Ladies by Sylvia Dickey Smith (Crispen Books)
  19. Death Logs Out by E. J. Simon (Endeavour Media)
  20. Faith Alone by Terri Ann Johnson (Brown Girls Books)
  21. Jenna's Case by Andy Siegel (Rockwell Press)
  22. The Widow of Wall Street by Randy Susan Meyers (Simon & Schuster)
  23. Louisiana Catch by Sweta Srivastava Vikram (Modern History Press)
  24. Skyjack by K. J. Howe (Quercus)
  25. The Perfect Candidate by Peter Stone (Simon & Schuster)
  26. Access Restricted by Gregory Scott Katsoulis (Harlequin Teen)
  27. Green Dots by Anthony Marcello (Page Publishing)
  28. A Steep Price by Robert Dugoni (Thomas & Mercer)
  29. Somebody's Daughter by David Bell (Berkley)
  30. The Cutting Edge by Jeffery Deaver (Grand Central Publishing)
  31. Vox by Christina Dalcher (Berkley)
  32. Blackberry Road by Jodi Lea Stewart (Sundown Press)
  33. The Forgotten Ones by Steena Holmes (Lake Union)
  34. Dog & B*tch Island by Robert Blake Whitehill (Calaveras Media)
  35. The Women on Retford Drive by Alretha Thomas (Diverse Arts Collective)
  36. Woman Last Seen In Her Thirties by Camille Pagan (Lake Union)
  37. Under My Skin by Lisa Unger (Park Row Books)
  38. The Epiphany by Alicia Rice (Alicia Rice)
  39. Deranged by Marcus Kimbrough (Xlibris)
  40. Tiffany Blues by M. J. Rose (Atria Books)
  41. Jinn by Jessica Cage (Caged Fantasies Publications)
  42. Three Showboxes by Steven Manchester (The Story Plant)
  43. Another Bump in the Road by T.M. Brown (T. M. Brown)
  44. Appearances Too by K. Reshay (K. Reshay)
  45. The Unkind Hours by Dwayne Alexander Smith (D*mn Good Books)
  46. Another Chance with You by Jacquelin Thomas (Harlequin Kimani Romance)
  47. The Last to Let Go by Amber Smith (Margaret K. McElderry)
  48. Stereotyped by Vick Breedy (Vick Breedy)
  49. After Nightfall by A.J. Banner (Lake Union)
  50. As Bright As Heaven by Susan Meissner (Berkley)

Conversations Top 50 Non-Fiction Books of 2018

It has become one of Conversations' most prized reveals: what books read by Conversations Media Group founder Cyrus Webb are his top picks of the year?

Here you will find his choices for Top 50 Non-Fiction Books of 2018. As over the past decade the list includes established voices as well as individuals who told amazing narratives either about themselves or others.

CONVERSATIONS' TOP 50 NON-FICTION BOOKS OF 2018
(Listed in no particular order)


  1. Intrinsic Hope: Living Courageously in Troubled Times by Kate Davies (New Society Publishers)
  2. Bill Duke: My 40-Year Career On Screen and Behind the Camera by Bill Duke (Rowman & Littlefield)
  3. Youtube Secrets by Sean Cannell & Benji Travis (Sean Cannell & Benji Travis)
  4. Abyss: Thought Provoking Poetry & Prose by D.G. Torrens (D.G. Torrens)
  5. Thriving Through Uncertainty by Tama Kieves (Tarcher Perigee/Penguin Random House)
  6. The Soul of America by Jon Meacham (Random House)
  7. Letters to the Daughter I'll Never Have by Ashley Brown (Mezcalita Press)
  8. The Top 10 Rules For Success by Evan Carmichael (Evan Carmichael) 
  9. Heavy by Kiese Laymon (Scribner)
  10. Daughters Betrayed by Their Mothers by Holli Kenley (Loving Healing Press)
  11. Redlined by Linda Gartz (She Writes Press)
  12. PTSD to Freedom by Linda Diane Wattley & William Sumner (Linda Diane Wattley)
  13. T.R.U.T.H. (Taking Responsibility Unleashes True Healing) by Mary Ellen Ciganovich (Conversations Media Group)
  14. Not A Poster Child by Francine Falk-Allen (She Writes Press)
  15. Act Like You Love Yourself by Lester Greene (Infinity Publications)
  16. Last Trip Home by Wanda Maureen Miller (She Writes Press)
  17. Unpunished Murder: Massacre at Colfax and the Quest for Justice by Lawrence Goldstone (Scholastic Focus)
  18. Sit Down and Shut Up by Cinque Henderson (St. Martin's Press)
  19. The Dinosaur Artist by Paige Williams (Hachette Books)
  20. This Is the Day by Tim Tebow (Waterbrook)
  21. Black Coffee: No Sugar, No Cream by Regina Duggins (Gina Mocha)
  22. Delta Epiphany: Robert E. Kennedy in Mississippi by Ellen B. Meacham (University Press of Mississippi)
  23. Cracking the Boy Code by Adam J. Cox (New Society Publishers)
  24. Food Fight by Chef Gigi Gaggero (Koehler Books)
  25. Pure by Linda Kay Klein (Touchstone)
  26. How Woman Rise by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith (Hachette Books)
  27. Pocket Full of Dreams by Justine Wentzell (Red Balloon Station Books)
  28. Unbroken: Still I Smile by Tamara Charles (Tamara Charles)
  29. Never Shut Up by Marcellus Wiley (Dutton/Penguin Random House)
  30. The Sense of Success by Angelo Ellerbee (Ellerbee Group)
  31. Wherever You Are by Cynthia Lim (Coffeetown Press)
  32. Food for L.I.F.E.(Lasting Impressions Forever Enjoyed) by Lisa W. Beckwith (Rain Publishing)
  33. Align with Your Purpose by Earl Hall (Earl Hall)
  34. The Burn Zone by Renee Linnell (She Writes Press)
  35. The Change of Life: The Mario Loving Story by Mario Loving (Conversations Media Group)
  36. Letters From Max: A Book of Friendship by Sarah Ruhl & Max Ritvo (Milkweed)
  37. The Magic of Tiny Business by Sharon Rowe (Berrett-Koehler Publishers)
  38. A Mountain Too High by Michael McClendon (Xulon Press)
  39. The Book of Self: A Thesis on Energy and How It Interrelates by Floyd Williams (Floyd Williams)
  40. Astonishing Tales: Stories and Essays by Matt Geiger (Henschel Haus)
  41. Chos3n: There's A High Cost to Low Living by Bianca Harris (Chos3n/Conversations Media Group)
  42. The Triumph of Rosemary by Judge Marylin E. Atkins (Two Sisters Writing & Publishing)
  43. Women Who Launch by Marlene Wagman-Geller (Mango)
  44. When Women Ruled the World by Kara Cooney (National Geographic)
  45. Breaking Up with Busy by Yvonne Tally (New World Library)
  46. Craig & Fred by Craig Grossi (William Morrow/Harper Collins)
  47. Beloved by Greatest Poet Alive (James Gordon/GPA Media Inc.)
  48. How to be Perfect Like Me by Dana Bowman (Central Recovery Press)
  49. A Spy In Canaan by Marc Perrusquia (Melville House Publishing)
  50. WTF?!(Willing to Fail) by Brian Scudamore (Lioncrest Publishing)

Conversations' Top 10 Books for Young Readers in 2018

Over 3 dozen books for young readers came across the desk of Conversations Book Club President Cyrus Webb's desk in 2018. From those he is proud to share the 10 books for young readers that are sure to entertain, inspire and leave them wanting more.

Conversations' Top 10 Books for Young Readers in 2018
(listed in no particular order)


  1. Tradition by Brendan Kiely (Margaret E. McElderry Books)
  2. Diary of a Wimpy Kid (The Meltdown) by Jeff Kinney (Amulet Books)
  3. The Little Unicorn by Sheri Fink (Whimsical World Books)
  4. I'm Mixed by Maggy Williams (Loving Healing Press)
  5. Jack Wentworth: The Real Belt by Karen Ward Wilder (Karen Ward Wilder)
  6. Alcohol,Drugs  You: A Young Person's Guide to Avoiding Addiction by Marc Treitler with Lianna Treitler (DoGood Press)
  7. People Kill People by Ellen Hopkins (McElderry Books)
  8. Magic Thinking for Kids by Marrielle Monte (Seize the Day Publishing)
  9. Pidge Takes the Stage by Michelle Staubach Grimes (Pidge Media)
  10. The Magician's Hat by Malcolm Mitchell (Orchard Books)

[Review] Earl Hall delivers an inspiring pep talk with ALIGN YOUR PURPOSE

After knowing Earl Hall now for a decade it's been great to see how he has used what he has learned to not just build his own brand but to motivate and encourage others along their own path. For that reason ALIGN WITH YOUR PURPOSE is not completely coming from left field, even though most know him for his work in business.

The interesting thing about this book and its timing is that we have all seen what Earl has done. Now he shares what has helped him do it. Not the learning of a skill but the embracing of a calling. I talk a lot about purpose in my work, and Earl reminds the reader that its something all of us have. It's not just reserved for a few.

Now this book is sure to inspire you but will also have you reading some parts with a question mark. You see Earl's path is his path, and what he has learned has helped him get to the level of greatness he enjoys. Can you do the same? Sure! Will you have to walk the way Earl did? Not at all. The important thing is to find your way and stay on it.

Part inspiration, part motivation towards action, Earl Hall delivers a pep talk that you can refer back to when you are doubting yourself and what is possible.

Get ALIGN WITH YOUR PURPOSE on Amazon.com.

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There Are Only So Many Tomorrows by Shari Alyse

How many times have you said to yourself, “I’ll do it tomorrow” or have you promised yourself that you would start again tomorrow? (Guilty!) The funny thing about tomorrows is that they never seem to come. There always seems to be something that we are waiting for. Some perfect moment, some things to align, some…something. I know for myself that I made a lot of promises awaiting that tomorrow.

I spent a good portion of my life putting off things with excuses that certain things had to line up. I never really took the opportunity to look at what I did have. I never really took the opportunity to celebrate the moments in my life because I was too busy looking ahead at what I wanted or what I thought I lacked. Wishing that I was famous and successful and all that ever did was make me feel badly that I wasn’t. I spent so much time wishing for other things that I ended up losing sight of what I did have and then realized how important and special all that was to me once I lost it.

Until one day, I finally learned that there are only so many “tomorrows.”

I believe we have all heard that statement (or some version of it) throughout our lives, and yet, in my travels and opportunities to connect with so many people over the years, I have discovered that we don’t really think about the deeper meaning within those words. For most of us, it becomes just another inspirational meme we see plastered all over social media and until we unfortunately lose something or someone important, we finally begin to understand the true depth of that statement. My greatest hope is that you don’t have to experience any sort of loss or regret in your life for it to sink in. So, I thought I would share with you what that statement means to me and tips on how to live your greatest life NOW!

For me, it screams, “Jump in the game!”
“Love who you are!”
“Love who you’re with!”

Appreciate the challenges, the bumps, the bruises, the beauty, blessings, and milestones. Appreciate all the “no’s” you’ve heard in life because it’s made you strive for what you really want and made you realize what is truly important. It’s also allowed you to see that you are still capable of surviving in spite of getting what you think you want.

Appreciate the “yes’s” as those were confirmations that you were on the right path, that you were following your gut and listening closely to the whispers leading you.

There are only so many tomorrows.
Be present to it all. Stop and notice the people, places and things around you as they are all teachers, lessons and blessings along your journey. Be aware of what you are feeling. When you are present to those feelings, you are honoring yourself by giving yourself the space and freedom to feel what you feel and those feelings are guideposts for you in your life.

Say thank you! And say it again. Say it all day long. Shout it from the rooftops. Every single movement you make, every breath you take, every clear thought you have, are things to be grateful for. We so often don’t realize what we have unless it’s taken from us. Don’t wait for that.

Stop hiding. Stop playing small. Stop thinking that you aren’t good enough to show up in this world. You were born and that is reason enough to stand out. That is reason enough to hold your head up high. Remaining tightly in your bud robs the world (me and you) of the beautiful gifts you’ve been brought here to share. The world needs you. I need you.

There are only so many tomorrows.

Smile more! Laugh more! Be silly! Eat ice cream for breakfast, roll down a lush green hill, stay up till dawn laughing with your girlfriends, buy those ridiculously priced shoes that you really do love, and eat on your fine china every day!

Go after your dream. I mean, your real dream. The one that keeps you up at night. The one that you most likely think you have no chance of achieving but nags at you consistently because it is your true passion. Yes, that one. Don’t spend your entire life making excuses as to why you can’t. Just do it. Your soul will thank you for it. So will all your loved ones because you will be the most beautiful person to spend time around.

Forgive yourself. Yes, right now. Forgive yourself the times that you didn’t show up for yourself. The times you didn’t believe in yourself, weren’t kind to yourself and certainly not compassionate towards yourself. Forgive yourself as not one of us is perfect and why spend another day being unkind to the person you spend the most time with.

There are only so many tomorrows.

Love crazily and wildly! Don’t hold back your feelings because you are afraid somebody won’t return them. The gift isn’t in being loved, the gift is loving. The gift is being able to FEEL and experience that unbelievable swirling of love moving through every cell in your body. The gift is the realization that loving is simply enough and realizing that your happiness and fulfillment in life is not dependent on how others feel about you but rather about how you well you loved.

Accept your worth.
Learn your value.
Don’t settle for anything lower than you deserve. Ever.
No explanation needed here.

Accept yourself. All of yourself. Every curve, every imperfection and every perceived flaw. Look deeply into the depths of your soul through those gorgeous eyes of yours and accept the magnificence reflecting back at you. That is you. Beautiful and brilliant YOU. Breathtaking.

There are only so many tomorrows.

My grandfather used to tell me to get my head out of the clouds as he wanted me to be more practical and think more practically. He was what he would call a realist. I think he was a survivalist. Put in an orphanage from a young age dealing with physical and verbal abuse there until he was old enough at 18 to get out on his own. He then created his own thriving business, married and lived a life of always thinking ahead and doing the next practical thing to plan for the future. I believe he often forgot a lot about these things I’ve spoken about above. What gives me great solace, however, and what has driven me throughout most of my life is that when my grandfather was facing his end, he spoke to me only about loving, living, and being happy and nothing about planning, saving and being practical.

You see, I believe the greatest lesson he was trying to teach me was that there are only so many tomorrows so better get to living NOW. He forever changed the way that I saw and experienced each day of my life and made me realize that this very moment, as it is, is more than enough. Make your today’s the very best and most beautiful they can be.


There are only so many tomorrows.

Shari Alyse is the Joy Magnet - a Motivational Speaker, Truth Coach, Author and the Co-Founder of The Wellness Universe. Shari's mission in this world is to have you awaken to YOU. To your beauty, your magnificence and your inner joy! Shari currently lives in Los Angeles with her long-term partner, John, and their cats, Hershey and Piper. 
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"Look Good, Feel Good, and Live Better" with Ameerah Dean

I am Ameerah Dean, Owner of IV: Life Line Fitness, LLC in Northridge, California (just outside of the Los Angeles).  As the owner, I boldly standby the belief that I am CEO of Take Back Your Life before Life Takes You because that is exactly what I've done.  In 2014, I began to Live Out Loud, Love what I Do, & show others how they can to! 

As a wellness professional, I'm able to assist other professionals: corporate leaders, health enthusiasts, or fitness professionals create balanced living through a trifold principle. I leverage previous senior management roles where I acquired specific skills for team development, and transitioning new businesses to now build partnerships that assist with creating freedom physically, financially, and time.  

I ask a few specific questions to start conversations that lead people to successfully Look Good, Feel Good, and Live Better. How can you really benefit from a platform to promote your business, build strong client base, support a team, and improve people skills? What will happen in your Life if you begin to keep, attract, and build new business? Those questions and several more are addressed when you are willing to have The Conversation about How to live a Healthy Lifestyle! We are here and so are your dreams and goals….

Approaching holiDAYs is a heavy topic each and every year.  As a wellness coach that’s certified in Fitness training and a specialist in Group Fitness, I have tackled questions related to this topic as a concept, a question, or even as a principle. Oftentimes, a person holds certain beliefs from September through end of December, and now it’s expanded through February in some cases.  To the readers, I ask how do you view the holidays? Do you see them as one day or week-long celebrations? These questions are important when you begin to consider how you can create a healthy lifestyle, and not feel like you are missing out on festivities that take place during this season. To really understand The How, I first must help you uncover the Why!

WHY is it necessary to make healthy be a lifestyle vs a quick fix or seasonal endeavor? 
WHY is a Day seen as anything other than that?
WHY does someone else’s approval dictate the desire to start or continue?
WHY does waiting create anxiety?
WHY does Healthier Living require extremes to kickstart actions?
WHY accept less?
WHY accept your goals can wait?
WHY accept the unknown as unlikely?
WHY accept help and not apply the steps?
WHY accept defeat?

The list of WHY’s is endless and there are certainly more I didnt’ list. In reality, being overwhelmed is what gets and keeps people stuck in a place of denial, regret, stagnation, or no action.  Which do you see yourself falling in line with the majority of the time? Typically, what is done in one area shows itself in other areas especially areas that present some sort of challenge. The idea of challenge is relative and is set by the individual.  It’s important to introspectively look within and take inventory of the thoughts that drive those responses. I will dive into each WHY individually. In the end of this piece, you will have a working knowledge of what you currently think and how you can use those thoughts to drive your actions on a healthier journey.  The goal of this article is to yes, spark interest in a healthy lifestyle, and also, give descriptions of roadblocks, stumbling blocks, and any other mental barriers that impede progress. Get ready to press the gas and pause where needed to make the necessary deviations on the journey to propel you forward.

1. WHY is it necessary to make Healthy be a lifestyle vs a quick fix or seasonal endeavor?
Have you ever heard perception is reality?  If so, then what does that mean? It means what one perceives, believes, defines, accounts for, or sees become the viewpoint/vantage point he’ll operate from.  So, if healthy is the vantage point, then the actions taken will align with that view. If on a healthy journey one sees healthy as seasonal, then it ends possibly four times a year.  When living by this belief, one will constantly start over. Seasonal marks changes, but it also describes ending. As a result, defining one's actions as lifestyle signifies it’s ongoing, and will change organically without first having to start over from the beginning.

2. WHY is a holiDay seen as anything other than that?
The struggle for balance revolves around the day being observed and celebrated longer than a day. In some cases, deviating from that may leave someone feeling unsettled.  If there are traditions that build up to the holiday, then reflect on how to engage in activities that will not derail progress or intended goals. Food is just one aspect of how to fellowship with friends and family. Once there is understanding around that belief, then one can speak, act, and expect the day to go differently.  The next step is a new day not carrying the celebration over. Enjoy and then elect to move forward on the healthy journey that’s been created.

3. WHY does someone else’s approval dictate the desire to start or continue?
Human being vs Human doings is how I can best dissect this question: Be state vs Do state. A Be state of mind means you are who you are without force or active intention, it’s just who naturally or authentically shows up in the world.  Do state means you do something to get into a specific state of mind.  When another's input or approval is required it means you are operating from a Do state. From that place you become dependent on that person and that influences actions.  Unfortunately, giving someone that much power diminishes the Be state. If the intent is to start, then Be state needs to take over to create authentic steps that will lend to a lifestyle that feels and aligns with current abilities.  If the intent is to continue, then the Be state and Do state need to be applied simultaneously. Once a decision is made, that need or influence from others to approve, agree, or disagree is eliminated. Let’s think of this from a fitness example:
Intent: Workout several days a week;
Be state: Monday, Wednesday evenings and Thursday/Saturday mornings you show up at gym, complete in-home workout (see Virtual Bootcamp offer), or meetup with a hiking group. These days were decided after carefully reviewing your planner for non-business meetings times and other non-work duties. 
Do state: Once husband, bosses, or child’s schedule is clear, then you will see what’s possible for workout times. No days are confirmed because actions are dependent on others responses.

4. WHY does waiting create anxiety?
The anticipation of what’s to come builds up over time and leaves one with a feeling of uncertainty about the outcome.  This unknowing becomes burdensome and leads one to question their ability to succeed in reaching goals. On a side note, those that already suffer from anxiety through exercise may improve mental health by helping the brain cope better with stress from the release of endorphins that exercise provides.

5. WHY does Healthier Living require extremes to kickstart actions?
Heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, obesity, inflammation are all drivers to get in action and create healthier habits through fitness and nutrition.  The unsilent majority seem to rely on these conditions to motivate change. As a coach, I've assisted hundreds start and reach their health goals. After reviewing the list, a large majority were urged to start because of medical conditions or fear of an impending condition if immediate changes were not instituted.  Have you heard the saying sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to make you not want to be in that place? Well, in the world of healthy living hitting rock bottom is not a place someone can afford to wait for because at that point making changes may not reverse the adverse effects.

6. WHY accept less?
If you don’t know your worth or belief you are worthy, then how will you expect and accept anything more?  This is not a question as much as it is a statement about setting the value for what’s of value. When it comes to the love of Family, Friends, or Faith why wouldn’t Fitness be included with the F’s of importance.  Healthy living will cost more overtime if there is less upfront investment. An upfront investment is actively working nutrition and fitness solutions. Until there is a true connection and desire to this lifestyle, then less is all one will give.  This means healthy living will receive the leftover time and attention vs the fresh and raw investment it requires.

7. WHY accept your goals can wait?
When there are millions of other tasks ahead that require immediate attention how do you decide which comes first?  The answer is representative of the person and what is seen as the most pressing task at that time. In my experience as a coach, people place others needs before their own not because they want to, but because they feel their goals can wait or there will be time later. How do they know there will be time later? Actually, they don’t but they trust that will be the case.  Also, they hope for a better tomorrow so they can squeeze in time for their hopes and dreams. Now, as a coach I tell them today is the tomorrow you are waiting for. Go ahead and create the time in your schedule! The response is always how do I create time, and my answer is how can you not. Time is a priceless, invisible, powerful force that will bully and leave you feeling defenseless.  However, the opposite is true when you stand up to time and break down what’s available during the 86,400 seconds in a day.

8. WHY accept the unknown as unlikely?
Yes, you do not know what you do not know, but what you do know is you have the ability to achieve great things.  Before I state that as a fact, ask yourself do you believe you can achieve greatness in the categories that matter to you? If this is not a belief you currently hold, then that’s an area to work on.  The best way to sustain a healthy lifestyle is believing in the unknown because there's no way of knowing what will happen. Yes, you will have results, but in what way will they reveal themselves first.  It’s important to embrace the journey and be open to physical and mental surprises that happen differently for each person.

9. WHY accept help and not apply the steps?
Some trust the solution, trust the coach, and trust the results they’ve seen will happen for them. If that trust truly exists, then why would one sabotage results and block goals from truly happening.  That questions tells a story about trust in self, and their ability to sustain results. What will reaching goals change, and what will it look and feel like? After casting their vision, it’s the role of that coach to passionately support, show, and shift their perspective along the journey. Eventually, the person grows to take ownership of their progress.

10. WHY accept defeat?
If uncertain about one’s ability to win, then they are settling for defeat.  This doubt will stop one from taking chances. As a result of not taking chances, succumbing to defeat will happen.  This is not the only option, going for your goals will lead one on a path of discovery. Along this path, the outlook, possible goals, and lastly thoughts will shift as well. 

As I close out the series of Why’s, it blends nicely to another series called the How’s.  Those How’s are also a list of questions. To answer those questions, I’ll provide specific steps for mental, physical, and nutritional support along the path to healthy living.  It is important to go through these stages of goalship to successfully build a healthy lifestyle that does not stifle daily life.

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