As a Reiki Master with a large following, people often come to me and ask me to heal their pain, heal their ailments, fix their finances or cure their addictions. I hate to tell you, but this isn't how it works! A 'healer' doesn't actually provide the healing, but instead provides the pathway for the healing to take place. It doesn't matter what kind of healing you're talking about, the concept is the same. If you break your arm and a doctor sets your injury, you aren't healed are you? Of course you aren't but he certainly did lay the foundation for the healing to occur. The same can be said about energy healers. The body is a perfect machine, designed to heal itself. It is sustained imbalances in the energy field, which causes illness and/or dis-ease. An energy healer is nothing more than a channel and/or facilitator to help bring the energy field back into balance so the body can heal itself. I don't need to know what is wrong with my client to deliver an effective healing. I am, after all, not the healer. I am merely a vessel for healing.
Teaching people to get out of the way and drop their attachments to the outcome of a healing is for me, the hardest part of teaching Reiki. I can teach anyone how to do a healing, I cannot however, teach someone to drop their ego...that is a journey each person, healer or not, must take for themselves. And that is really what we are talking about when we are trying to direct a healing...Ego. We essentially are assuming we know better than God, Spirit, Source, the Universe or whatever you want to call it when we try to direct the healing.
When someone gets a headache and becomes stressed, they'll often take an aspirin to treat the symptom. That is the world we live in, treat the symptom, but what they don't understand is that the underlying cause (the stress that caused the headache) is still there. Similarly, if your client comes to you with a headache (and unbeknownst to you, their appendix was about to burst) and you try to direct the healing, focusing only on their headache you as the 'healer' would be getting in the way of what it is that they really need...at this point, you're doing the client a disservice.
When we are new to healing, we so badly want to see results that we become tied to the outcome. It's ok to get excited when we see results. It is normal to want to see people heal through our efforts, but at some point, we must learn that we can't heal everyone. There are many things that factor into a healing taking place. Besides the fact that we are not actually providing the healing, people must be willing to heal. They must co-create and participate in their healing as well. I hate to say it, but some people don't really want to be healed. They might think they want to heal, they might say they do, but at a deeper level, it isn't always true. Some people become so attached to their illness, so attached to their story and the attention they receive by telling their story, that the illness actually becomes their identity. I once did a healing for a woman with lupus. After the healing, she raved, telling me that she had spent more than $100,000 in treatments and never felt as good as she did in that moment. I encouraged her to learn Reiki so she could empower herself, take charge of her own health and feel that way every day...she never called me again. Why? I can't say for sure because I'm not in her shoes, but the fact remains, she found something that worked and didn't pursue it.
There is also a bigger issue at hand as to why some people do not heal. We do not know what anyone's life path is. We don't know when someone's time is up and we don't know what their life lessons are. Some are here to overcome and learn from their illness, some are here to learn by succumbing to their illness, while still others sacrifice themselves early so others can learn, or to clear a karmic debt. There is no apparent rhyme or reason why some die young while others live to be very old, why someone smokes two packs a day for fifty years and dies of natural causes while someone who never smoked dies of cancer...actually, there is a very good reason as to why, but few of us actually have the insight to make sense of it. But the point is, we don't know anyone else's destiny, so we must learn to detach ourselves from the results, and we certainly cannot play God and try to force a healing. Forcing a healing is nothing but ego.
Experience has taught me we don't need to know what someone's issue is to deliver an effective healing. The best thing we can do as healers is to deliver the healing, get out of the way and let Spirit deliver the very best healing for each person at that moment in time. A healer after all, is just a vessel for the healing...a healer is not really THE healer, so drop the ego and do your best. That's all anyone can ask.