by Just Jennifer
When two people are in a relationship, they owe it to one another
to provide certain benefits. Love, support, financial help, respect,
companionship, and honesty are only a few of the benefits that should be
expected from your mate. But what about dating? As a 37 year old single
mother, I've had my fair share (and possibly someone else's share) of
dating. I've had amazing dates and dates that I was sure would end in me
being chopped up and served at his next dysfunctional family dinner.
True, I love to eat and whoever takes me out will spend a decent amount
of money on my dinner, but I've often be left with the question: what do
I owe him?
Ladies, if a man takes you on a
nice date, spends his hard-earned money to feed you a delicious meal,
flatters you with compliments, and provides a nice evening away from
your life and problems, what do you owe him? Do you owe him a second
date? How about a sexual favor? He did spend his money on you, right?
Wrong. Dead wrong. Listen to me and listen hard: you owe him manners at
the table, you owe him the privilege of sitting next to a lovely lady
and enjoying a meal. You only owe him the wonderful company of you...or
the hot mess of you...whichever category you prefer. Should you choose
to go home with him, more power to you. As an adult, that's your choice.
But it's most certainly not OWED to him. And men....
I didn't forget you, Gentlemen. What do you owe us? If you take a
woman to a nice dinner, you enjoy her company, and it ends up in a fun
night of adult entertainment, what do you owe her? Do you owe her a
light bill? How about a father figure for little Tommy? Now it's your
turn to listen: Nope...not at all...please don't do it. You owe nothing.
The fact is that she agreed, as well as you did, to be an adult and
involve herself with your manly ways. Stop feeling as if you are now
obligated to be her main squeeze!
Now continue
on with your dating. Be sure to remember that you are owed nothing. For
all the ladies who already know this, disregard. For all the gentlemen
who never push a lady on the first date, you've got my utmost respect.
For all those in between...party on, you crazy fools! That's just my
opinion, though. ***
*** Just Jennifer is proud to call Mississippi home and welcomes your feedback on this topic. Email your thoughts and questions to Jennifer at justjennifer.cmg@gmail.com. You can also find her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/imjustjennifer. (The views expressed here are those of Just Jennifer and do not necessarily reflect the thoughts of Conversations Media Group or Shadow Play Entertainment.)
Very well written article and I agree that I wouldn't owe a man anything for a meal and/or a lovely evening. However, if I liked him and wanted him to ask me out again, I'd certainly thank him for a lovely meal/evening. And even if I didn't want him to ask me out again, I'd thank him for the meal. (As you can probably tell, I'm old enough to think that manners matter.)
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