[Ask Mary Ellen] Making the Most of Choices: How?

 

Did you ever stop to consciously think about the number of choices you make day by day or even hour by hour or minute by minute?

Of course, most of your small choices are repetitive without any awareness of evening being made such as bathroom habits, brushing your teeth, making coffee or any of your routine choices to begin your day.

Most of these choices are ones that work for you to keep your life and your body working the way you want it to. We tend to neglect these small choices thinking it doesn’t matter how I get out of bed or if I thank God before my feet hit the floor. You don’t THINK these choices matter until

1.      You get out of bed without stretching first and hurt your back or twist your neck. Then “wake up call” Oh, I better start exercising or eating right! Or

2.      You have day after day of negativity because you wake up watching the news or viewing negative posts on social media.  Then “wake up call" might be a migraine or stomach issues or other diseases forcing you to wake up to be positive and thank God for another day!

These are simple small choices that when repeated day after day can either create the life you want or create a disastrous life you don’t want.

When you make the choice day after day to NOT take care of your body by eating incorrectly, not exercise or move your body, to not put cream on your skin to keep it moist, not brush your teeth 3 times a day, or you skip vitamins, herbs, antioxidants that will assist your body then you cannot expect your body to keep moving and working the way you want it to later in life!

In a similar way, when we keep treating each other with judgements, motives, expectations, disdain, criticizing everything then we cannot expect society to be better.

ALL of us must make choices from this moment on to become part of society’s solution, instead of continually criticizing and saying, it’s not my problem. Because when you say things like this YOU ARE THE PROBLEM or you are at least part of the problem.

Making good choices is the difference between achieving happiness and success or putting up with a life that is less than what you want.

The word choice is an action word requiring you to take action. Everything the smallest of details in your day-to-day life, to your future successes all depend on the choices you make NOW!

I once heard Anthony Robbins say, “Reasons won’t get you results decisions do, make a decision today to get the results you want! (Lit bulb) I like to substitute the word choices for decisions, as every choice you make is a conscious decision to create your life.

The key to creating success in any life is to think of far-reaching consequences. Are you eating correctly? Do you exercise? Are you aware of the many possible opportunities to advance your success on a daily basis? Are you still stuck in a past experience, blaming yourself for your error in judgment? How long are you going to allow 2020 to have an adverse effect on your life?

We are ALL beginning a New Year - 2021! Let us give thanks as We are the survivors and we now can make different choices! We can make choices to treat each other with kindness, compassion, dignity, honesty and understanding.

Whatever choices all of us decide to make, these choices will have future consequences. These consequences will not only affect our society, they will affect the world as we know it. So, before you make your next choice ask yourself, “how do I want to create my life? How can I make better choices? How can I become part of the solution? How can I leave the world a better place!

1. You can make good choices or you can allow “chance" to make choices for you. Either way you have no one to blame except yourself! When you choose to give your ability to choose away to society or someone else you cannot go back and blame them when that choice doesn’t work for you!
2. In 2021, I challenge All of us to take back ownership of our choices. Quit looking to blame someone else because your life isn’t working! Let us all choose happiness, forgiveness, kindness, generosity, compassion, encouragement, gratitude, peace of mind and success!

2020 was a year full of fear. It is over, gone, done! Let go of the fear that was 2020 as we ring in 2021 with a deep sense of unconditional love for every person, animal and wondrous beautiful thing making up planet Earth!

Be grateful for your life, friends, family, health, food to eat and clean water to drink. Become consciously aware of ALL the choices you make every day from the smallest of choices to big choices that direct your life. Let us teach these choices to our children and grandchildren, as we lead through becoming living examples of good choices!

In 2021, make good choices and consciously choose to become part of the solution, through all the good choices you make every day. By your living example of making good choices, you create opportunities for a successful future.

Happy New Year!

Sincerely with love,

Mary Ellen Ciganovich

www.askmaryellen.com

 

 

[Ask Mary Ellen] Allowing Love to Transform and Detoxify your Soul

Holding in anger or any negative emotion can allow toxins to enter at the very level of your soul changing your energy patterns and throwing you into disharmony.

First, you must look at how you allow these toxins to become part of your existence. Do you hold onto past hurts? Are you unforgiving of yourself and/or others? Do you have judgments about yourself, others or our society as a whole? Do you let go and allow the Universe – your world to flow freely? Do you take care physically and mentally of this temple for your Holy Spirit or do you feed it with junk food and fill your mind with the “negative” news talk?

Spiritual teachers have always pointed to the soul/ heart as the seat of consciousness. Anyone who has taken the time to explore the soul, and more importantly the connection to the heart, knows the connection between these two and a consciousness greater than the ego. Approaching life with an open heart means you have opened the door to the greater consciousness at the soul level.

 Become aware of how you can create positive change by choosing the language you use and the perception of how you see your world. You may already have ideas about phrases you would like to transition out of your vocabulary. It is challenging to examine how you see your world. You do not need to actively try to change either of these patterns just become more conscious of yourself. Treat and speak to others the way you would like to be treated and spoken to by them!

When you affirm you are fulfilled, instead of articulating deficiencies, you are committing to your natural essence of human existence. Choose to focus on satisfaction instead of dissatisfaction. At your very soul level understand the energy of your thoughts determines the response you receive from the Universe/God. When you work with all of this creative power within you, it will empower you to achieve the peaceful life you want to live.

The secret for any detoxification process is to become grateful. Allow the power of God’s love to transform you. God and His love transforms ordinary humans into compassionate beings to vibrate at a level of love and kindness. You can raise your vibrational level through gratitude. Feel gratitude for all you have and all the goodness God has bestowed upon you.

Feel gratitude for everything! There is always a reason to be grateful even if you are simply grateful that something good has happened to someone else!

To detoxify your soul, you must
1. Let go of past hurts
2. Forgive unconditionally – especially yourself.
3. Stop judging yourself and others.
4. Allow all emotions/toxins that come into contact with your soul to be felt in entirety and let go without judgment.

To have a peaceful full life you must detoxify, especially at this very basic level of the soul. 

Regularly release these toxins through writing – such as journaling or crying as your tears will flush out your toxins. When you feel a toxin (sadness or yucky feeling) FEEL it let it. Let it come out (as tears or another positive way such as boxing or exercise) and do not judge it. You can sing or make any kind of sound to free up your soul. Music is very Healing!

 Become aware and elevate your soul. By opening your soul to free up the toxins (sadness, judgements or other yucky feelings) that have been binding you will make you feel tender and vulnerable. That is okay. Again, do not judge it! This process takes practice, patience, compassion and unconditional love.

Sincerely with love,
Mary Ellen Ciganovich
Author of "Healing Words, Life Lessons to Inspire” and "T.R.U.T.H- Taking Responsibility Unleashes True Healing"
www.askmaryellen.com  askmaryellen@aol.com  423-653-6446

Mary Ellen Ciganovich: Sharing Her T.R.U.T.H. with the world daily

by Cyrus Webb

If you are someone who is looking for daily inspiration and positivity then look no further than Mary Ellen Ciganovich. She and I have been friends for years and in 2018 she released her book T.R.U.T.H that has spawned a media brand that includes a weekly show on Instagram and a daily radio segment through Conversations Daily News. 

In this chat we discuss the year that's been 2019, what it's been like for her to overcome challenges and remind us all of what is possible. 

Mary Ellen, a lot going on with you this year. Not only are you still celebrating your book T.R.U.T.H. (Taking Responsibility Unleashing True Healing) but you are also the co-host of the live show “Truth of the Day” as well as the host of your own daily segment called “Truth of the Day”. What has it been like for you to see how the “Truth of the Day” brand has grown? 
It definitely has been an amazing journey, a dream coming to fruition and full of so many wonderful blessings along the way. 

Did you know when you started sharing the “Truth of the Day” messages online that they would expand the way that they have?  
I began writing the “Truth of the day” posts in a way to promote my first book,” Healing Words, Life Lessons to Inspire.” I thought if people enjoyed my “Truth” posts they would enjoy,” Healing Words, Life Lessons to Inspire. “ The Truth of the day posts really took off and while my first book did well, my readers kept urging me to write  T.R.U.T.H book or a book of my daily posts. So I sat down and took an entire year to write, “ T.R.U.T.H  Taking Responsibility Unleashes True Healing.”

You have definitely had your challenges and setbacks in life, Mary Ellen. What has kept you pushing onward?
The one thing that has always kept me moving forward is my Faith – and also my readers! Every time I would think about quitting writing my Truth of the day posts God would send a reader with a comment about how that particular posts helped them or kept them going. My readers reinforced my own faith that I must continue writing in order to aid in the healing of our society. 

Do you think one of the reasons your message is reaching so many is because they can resonate with your journey?
Everyone has a journey and ALL of us face difficulties no matter what we look like or economic level we come from. We are all here to learn and WAKE UP to so many incorrect societal truths. My Truth of the day posts resonate with so many people because I know people are searching for the Truth and they are tired of having superficial, platonic answers tossed their way. 

We have all heard the saying ‘do it afraid’. How have you been able to face the fear in your own life and do things that might have scared you at one time? 
This is a tough question, and the answer is simple as God put me in a place where I had no choice. It was either face your fear or ( in my case) allow my MS monster to take over. I also had a near death experience- way back – in 1974 . After a very horrible experience, I attempted suicide by taking an entire bottle of pills. I was in a coma for 3 days and went to a very dark cold place first until a doorway opened and a very beautiful bright light appeared. I floated up to it only to be told by Christ /God that what I had done was very bad and I had many purposes to fulfill on Earth. As soon as the door slammed shut I was awake and in intensive care. Hopefully now I am completely some of that purpose. So as you can imagine,  fear is not an option. 

The book T.R.U.T.H. has 366 messages for us to read and reflect on. How did the book come about? 
As a result of trying to promote my first book. It also has 366 because my Father in law, who is now passed on was born on leap year so the extra day is for him! The peacock is on the cover because peacock’s get their beautiful tail feather colors from eating thorns. The harder the thorn is to digest the more beautiful color in the tail. I relate this to all of us going through our trials and tribulations.  As we learn we become beautiful people living in peace and harmony.

Ego is one of those things you have written and talked about a lot. Why is it so important to keep the ego in check when pursuing your passion and going day to day in life?  
I call the ego – our devil.  Your ego will get you into trouble every time. Ego is full of expectations,  motives and judgments. Your ego is full of worry, doubt and self loathing, even when you think it isn’t.  Your ego and your thinking self need to be quiet while you listen to your intuitions, knowing’s, and God which will always speak to you from your soul level when you are quiet .(or your gut)

Like I said lots of great things already happening. What is next for you?  
I have no idea what is next . I do have a new book outlined and an autobiography that no one would believe.  I think I will just see where God leads me. 

Any advice for those out there who are on the fence about pursuing their goals and dreams?
The advice I would give to everyone listening is to follow your passion. Do not allow any one or anything to stop you. Ask yourself,  what do you love to do? Then go about finding a way to make money by doing it. 

Thanks again for the time, Mary Ellen. Your book T.R.U.T.H. is available on Amazon. How can our readers stay connected with you and get T.R.U.T.H. for themselves?
My website is www.askmaryellen.com.